Emotional acceptance

I found very interesting article about emotional acceptation and how it would affect us.

According to Noam Shpancer, Ph.D.: “Emotional acceptance refers to the willingness and ability to accept and experience the negative emotion, to acknowledge and absorb it. Acceptance offers several advantages. First, by accepting your emotions, you are accepting the truth of your situation (it is snowing). This acceptance means that you don’t have to spend your energy pushing the emotion away. Instead, once the emotion is acknowledged, you can then turn to pursue the behaviors that are aligned with your goals and values.

Second, when you accept the emotion, you are giving yourself a chance to learn about it, become familiar with it, become skilled in its management, and integrate it into your life. Avoidance doesn’t teach you that, because you can’t learn to do something by not doing it.

Third, acceptance is implicitly akin to saying, “This is not that bad.” Which is the truth–negative emotions may not be fun, but they won’t kill you; experiencing them as they are–annoying but not dangerous–is eventually much less of a drag than the ongoing (failing) attempt to avoid them.

Finally, when you accept a negative emotion, it tends to lose its destructive power. This is surprising and counter intuitive to many people, but if you think about it for a while, you will see the logic of this approach. Swimmers who are caught in an undertow and feel themselves being dragged out to sea often panic and begin to swim against the current with all their might. Often, they fatigue, cramp and drown. To survive, such a swimmer should do the opposite–let go. Let the current take him out to sea. Within a few hundred yards the current will weaken and the swimmer can swim around and back to shore. The same with a powerful emotion: pushing against it is futile and possibly dangerous; but if you accept the emotion, it will run its course while allowing you to run yours.”

Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/insight-therapy/201009/emotional-acceptance-why-feeling-bad-is-good

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Favorite Quotations

  • “O mankind, indeed We have created you from male and female and made you peoples and tribes that you may know one another. Indeed, the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous of you. Indeed, Allah is Knowing and Acquainted.” Quran (49:13).
  • ” … But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not.” Quran (2:216).
  • “There are no regrets in life, only lessons learned.” JA
  • “You never fail until you stop trying.” Albert Einstein
  • “without the rain there no rainbow.”
  • “In the End, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends”.Martin Luther King, Jr.
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Why should I write ?

Why should I write ?

I have the thought that I need to write, but I’ve not found the answer for it. By passing the hours and days, I realized that writing is not about pouring my ink on a peace of white paper, it is a way to discover and understand myself.

 Many reason motivate me to write, and this is list not final. I want to write to proof to myself that I understood what I am writing about. I want to write because it helps to reflect on my life and changes I’m making. I want to write because it clarifies my thinking. I want to write because it makes me better at writing.

I want to write because writing for an audience (even if the audience is just one person) helps you to think from the perspective of the audience. I want to write because it helps me to get better at persuading people to change their minds. I want to write because it forces me to come up with new ideas regularly, and so that forces me to solve the very important problem of where to get ideas.

I want to write because it helps me to build an audience who is interested in what I have to share, and how I can help them.  I want to write because it removes stress from mind, place on paper.  I want to write because it sweeps my mind for forgotten tasks and ideas that have been fermenting in the back of my head without my knowledge.

I want to write because it keeps my writing skills sharp.  I want to write because it turns the noise off.  I want to write because it enhances my communication skills. I want to write to know what I want in this life. I want to write to develop my analytical skills.

I want to write because it a wake-up call for your brain. I want to write to maintain vocabulary and expansion.  I want to write because to collect my thoughts and important moments throughout the week.  I want to write because to manage certain feelings of dissatisfaction, unhappiness, or a lack of fulfillment may surface.

I want to write because to help me share my thoughts and my experience. Sharing is  caring ! I want to write because it just like going to the gym, I feel like writing is rewarding. When I finish a post or an short entry, I feel accomplished. I want to write because it helps to stop and reflect on where I am in the bigger story. I want to write because I want to write down what I learn, so I don’t have to re-learn it later.

I want to write to help in making decisions faster and sticking up to your goals. I want to write because to jot down key lessons learned throughout the day or notes from a book I’m currently reading. I want to write because I want to write daily ! I want to write because It is life-changing.

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